Virtues and Unvirtues Lists

Unvirtues

Virtues

Aimless

Purposeful

Always have to be right, one-eyed, smartarse, know-all

Team-player, humble, curious

Angry, ill-tempered, bitchy, irritable, surly, explosive

Calm, generous, good-natured, easy-going, amiable, forgiving

Anti-social, misanthrope, withdrawn, shut down

Engaging, interested in others, accepting

Anxious, fearful, agitated, apprehensive

Self-confident, peaceful, centred, calm

Apathetic , slothful, lazy, indolent

Industrious, action-oriented, interested, alert, energised, conscientious, perseverant, inspired

Argumentative, quarrelsome, contrary, disagreeable, fractious, confrontational

Agreeable, peaceful, reconciliatory, open to persuasion, good-natured, easy-going

Attacking, dumping, critical, blaming

Non-judgmental, praising, tolerant, helpful, fair, self-restrained, self-reflective

Bully, belligerent, intimidating, pushy, bossy, authoritarian, domineering, overbearing, heavy-handed, oppressive, dictatorial, imperious

Mutual, respectful, receptive, cooperative

Careless, slapdash, neglectful

Careful, meticulous, concerned, diligent, excellence-oriented

Clumsy

Graceful

Cold, icy

Warm, open

Collapsed, floppy

Persevering, ambitious, tenatious

Competitive

Cooperative

Compulsive

Spontaneous

Controlling

Relaxed, allowing

Corrupt, perverted, rotten, depraved, crooked, duplicitous, traitor

Principled

Cowardly, fainthearted, weak-willed, spineless, lack of nerve, timid, insipid, wimp

Brave, courageous, solid, confident, firm, strong, valorous

Cynical, jaded, pessimistic, negative

Positive, enthusiastic, zealous, hopeful, open-minded, optimistic

Deceitful, dishonest, unscrupulous, cheating, fraudulent, lying

Guileless, honest, integrity, honour

Defensive, hypersensitive, self-justifying, rationalising

Non-defensive, open to criticism, secure, humble, sense of humour

Dependent, clingy, energy-sucker, co-dependant

Self-reliant, independent, giving, boundaried, autonomous

Depressed, morose

Hopeful, optimistic, cheerful

Destructive

Constructive

Dirty, unkempt, slovenly

Clean, neat and tidy

Disloyal, treacherous, opportunistic, unfaithful,

Faithful, loyal, reliable, devoted, committed, unwavering, steadfast, trustworthy

Disobedient, defiant, oppositional, resistant

Obedient, respectful, cooperative

Disowned aggression, passive-aggressive

Owned aggression

Doubtful, undermining, mistrust, suspicion

Enthusiastic, visionary, constructive, supportive, faith, trust

Emotionally avoidant, superficial

Authentic, deep, self-knowledge

Evasive, deflective, cagey, slippery

Straightforward, direct

Exaggerating

Honest, realistic

Falsely modest

Self-honest

Forgetful

Mindful

Gluttonous, excessive, greedy

Moderate, sharing

Gossipy, back-stabbing

Discrete, keep secrets, direct, upfront

Gross, obscene, crude, boorish, vulgar

Courteous, tasteful, refined, polite, gracious

Hard hearted

Compassionate

Hasty, in a rush, undignified

Dignified, paced

Hateful, revengeful

Forgiving, loving, concerned for others

Hog the airspace, attention-seeking, self-aggrandising, boastful, loud, egocentric, opinionated

Interested in others, open, modest, quiet, attentive

Impatient

Patient, forbearing

Impervious, isolated, self-focused, stone-waller

Empathic, connected, relational, communicative

Impulsive, reckless, rash

Considered, cautious

Inconsiderate, insensitive, unaware of others, cavalier, diffident, self-absorbed

Thoughtful, considerate, sensitive

Inconsistent, hypocritical, two-faced

Consistent, steady, integrated

Indifferent, aloof, unreachable

Caring, available

Inflexible, stubborn, rigid, stuck, obstinate, close-minded, intractable, pigheaded, dogmatic

Flexible, creative, curious, accepting, negotiable, open-minded, reasonable

Insecure

Secure, faith in self

Insincere, faker

Sincere, genuine

Intolerant, judgemental

Tolerant, understanding, broadminded

Intrusive, busybody, interrupting, prying, meddlesome, nosy

Respectful, boundaried, self-contained

Irresponsible

Responsible, accountable

Lustful, lascivious, wanton, lewd, sleazy, debased

Sexually boundaried, clean, chaste, sober, heart-centred

Manipulative

Candid, upfront, non-controlling

Masked, closed, secretive

Open, candid, honest

Messy, disorganised

Orderly, neat

Nagging, snippy

Differentiated, crisp-boundaries

Naive, gullible

Discerning, worldly

Offensive, foot-in-mouth

Tactful, diplomatic

Other-oriented, obsequious, ass-kisser, solicitous

Upright, dignified, assertive

Over emotional, dramatic, reactive, storm-in-a-teacup

Emotionally stable, even, cool-headed

Perfectionist, anal

Realist, relaxed

Permissive, enabling

Boundaried, tough-love

Petty, small-minded, cheapskate, miser

Liberal, magnanimous

Possessive, grasping, envious, jealous

Generous, trusting

Predatory, invasive, rapacious, exploitative, wolfish, user

Sensitive, respectful, boundaried

Prejudiced, bigot

Open-minded

Prevaricating, indecisive, uncommited

Resolute, clear-purposed, decisive, steadfast, committed

Problem-avoidant

Can-do, problem-solver

Procrastinate, tardy

Disciplined, prompt, punctual

Promising more than can deliver, over reaching, over estimating

Deliver on promises, realistic

Resentful, bitter, grudge-carrier

Forgiving, speaking-up

Resistant, stuck, rigid

Willing to grow, open

Rough

Gentle

Rude, discourteous, insolent, impertinent

Polite, courteous, reverent

Sarcastic

Praising, positive

Scheming, devious, sly, crafty, cunning, dodgy, shifty, conniving, sneaky

Transparent, upfront

Self-destructive, self-defeating, self-hating

Self-fulfilling, self-accepting

Self-important, vain, conceited, arrogant, self-righteous

Humble, modest, unassuming

Selfish, self-interested, self-centred, self-seeking, ruthless

Altruistic, concerned with others, service oriented, non-attached, selfless, self-sacrificing

Shaming, contemptuous, scornful

Accepting, including, valuing, loving

Socially disconnected

Socially sensitive

Spendthrift, wasteful

Thrifty, frugal, economical, prudent

Sullen, morose, dour

Cheerful, light-hearted, joyful

Superior, grandiose, snob, pretentious, condescending, elitist, pompous, officious, patronising, disdainful, superscillious

Simple, uncomplicated, unpretentious, humble, mutual

Suspicious

Trusting, having faith

Thieving, covetous

Honest

Uncontained, over-enthusiastic, exaggerator

Restrained, modest, realistic

Undisciplined, self-indulgent, hedonistic

Self-discipline, temperance

Unfair, inconsistent, biased

Fair, just, unbiased, impartial

Unfriendly, hostile

Friendly

Ungrateful

Thankful, grateful

Ungrounded, unstable, flustered, scattered

Grounded, solid, dependable, centred, focused

Unkind, mean, spiteful, malicious, vindictive, sadistic, cruel, dangerous, heartless, persecutor, hateful

Kind, non-violent, merciful, compassionate

Unrealistic, practically disconnected

Practical, realistic

Untrustworthy, unreliable, inconsistent

Trustworthy, reliable, dependable

Victimy, whining, complaining, self-pitying, martyr, hypcondriac

Assertive, voice neeeds, grateful, accepting, tolerating, enduring, strength, sinew

Wilful

Meek, compliant

Wordy, verbose

Frank, to the point, succinct